Frequently asked Question & Answers

 

1.  Q  "HOW DOES YOUR SERVICE STAND OUT?"

A  What's different about me and my service is that I will only perform ONE wedding a day.  I treat my couples wedding ceremony with love and respect and treasure their day as they do.  Once hired, I am available for my couple 24/7.  I will give them 100% of myself and help them in any way I can to plan a ceremony that is perfect for them.  I will work with them in creating a personalized, memorable ceremony that fits their wants, desires and most importantly, their personalities.


2.  Q  "WHAT DO YOU ENJOY ABOUT THE WORK YOU DO?"

   I love everything about being an Officiant!!  I truly do.  From creating the ceremony that is perfect for my couple to my couple standing in front of me on their wedding day.  The whole process is something I cherish. 


3.  Q  "WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE A COUPLE LOOKING TO HIRE A PROVIDER IN YOUR AREA OF WORK?"

Go with an Officiant that you feel you have that immediate connection with.  I know there are many Officiants out there, that charge all different prices, but go with the Officiant you know you can talk with, share with, feel comfortable with and trust will have your best interest at heart. I tell my couples all the time, I'm not for everyone but for the one's I am, you have all of me!


DO YOUR RESEARCH and make sure the Officiant you hire knows all the ins and outs of the legal process as well.  You'd be surprised how many don't know this!


4.  Q  "DO YOU CHARGE EXTRA FOR "ADD ONS" WITH YOUR CEREMONIES?"

A  NO!  My quote to you will always include writing, preforming your ceremony, filing your license as well as travel. There are never any hidden costs and I will NOT charge for additional services in your ceremony (like unity ceremonies, readings etc.).  If you're having a Unity Ceremony, the couple is responsible for purchasing the items required for the ceremony (ie: candles, sand, stones etc.).   


5. Q  "WHAT IS YOUR TYPICAL PROCESS FOR WORKING WITH A NEW COUPLE?"

  A  First, I like to meet with my couples. I want my couples to get a feel for who I am.  If distance between us makes it impossible to meet in person then we can FaceTime or Skype.  My goal is for you to feel as a friend is marrying you on your wedding day and not a stranger you met online.  Once we've met, I will hold your wedding day for 3 days. If I do not hear back from you, I will put your wedding date back on my calendar. If you would like me to officiate your ceremony, I will send you my contract and once that, and $100.00 deposit has been received, I will send you all the options we discussed to make your ceremony all about the two of you.  Then the fun begins, working together in preparing you ceremony, personalizing every step to fit your personality.   I am there for my couple 24/7 and will do whatever is needed to ensure you wedding ceremony is perfect!


6.  Q  "CAN'T I JUST HAVE A FRIEND MARRY US?"

  ​A  My answer to this is, it's your day and you can do what ever you want, BUT:  Do you really want a friend or a relative or person with limited experience, lead the most important moment of your life?  I've been performing weddings for over 5 years and there are things I am still learning, but my experiences allow me to give my couple a flawless ceremony and one that they will cherish.  My personal option is that it is a great honor for the couple to ask family and friends to come up and do a "reading", but not perform the entire ceremony.  


Now, if it is important for you to have a friend or relative perform your ceremony, but are worried about all the detail, I am available, for a small fee, to work with the person you choose, ensuring they know the details of a wedding ceremony as well as all the legal work with regards to filing your marriage license. You get the best of both worlds :) ! 


7.  Q  "WHY DOES IT COST SO MUCH FOR 20 - 30 MINUTES OF WORK?"

  It is completely understandable for couples and their guests to assume officiants earn an unusually high amount of money for simply prompting the couple through their vows and pronouncing them married, but that is only part of the story the most visible part.  Competent officiants invest time before the wedding gathering the pieces together and ensuring the desired flow of the ceremony is there. Time may be spent helping the couple customize vows, decide between a unity candle or a sand ceremony, and/or writing the opening words, a homily and a blessing. Ceremony composition is far more time-consuming than the joyful occasion itself.  Officiants are often present well before the service to calm nerves or confer with a wedding consultant, the photographer, and other wedding vendors.  I honestly believe that money is not the main issue. The Officiant's fee is probably one of the least costs of your wedding day. 

Officiants are also responsible for ensuring accurate completion of the marriage license and submitting it to the appropriate county clerk office within the matter of a few days and there are travel and/or postage expenses associated with this responsibility. Wedding officiating is a business with accompanying expenses. Officiants must advertise, maintain home offices, have internet access, make long-distance phone calls and travel to the ceremony among other costs.

Your officiant is a professional every bit as much as your caterer, your DJ/Band and your photographer.  


8.  Q  "WHERE ARE YOU WILLING TO GO TO PERFORM A CEREMONY?"

 A  Anywhere!  Over the past 5 years I've lived all over.  I have been blessed to be a part of beach weddings in NJ, city roof top weddings in NYC , amazing sunset weddings in Santa Fe as well as weddings in the great outdoors in the beautiful Smoky Mountains.  Celebrating your marriage ceremony, in a location that means something to you, will make it more personal and a truly cherished memory.



9.  Q "DO YOU PERFORM SAME SEX MARRIAGES"

​       You bet I do! I am honored to be a part of ANY couples wedding ceremony that share a deep love for one another!  I truly believe that there is no power on heaven or earth that can come between two people who love each other so much that they want to commit themselves to each other in the amazing partnership of marriage!  



10. Q "HOW DO WE PAY YOU?"

   A  When you decide to hire me, I do require a $100.00 deposit to hold your wedding day for you and you alone. All my contracts and invoices are done electronically where you can pay with a debit/credit card but I also accept  personal checks, money orders or cash.  The balance is due one week before your wedding day, no exceptions!


11. Q "IS A REHEARSAL REALLY NECESSARY?"

​      A  Couples have different feelings on this issue.  Some couples find that a rehearsal is necessary and feel it is an important 'part of the process'. Some brides take comfort in knowing just what will happen. It doesn't matter if you have a small bridal party (just the couple) or a large bridal party, my opinion, if it makes you happy, I'm happy to be there. 



12. Q "I OFTEN HAVE COUPLES SHYLY ASK,  "ARE WE SUPPOSED TO TIP THE OFFICIANT?” 

A  The answer is simple; Gratuities are never expected but always appreciated!  I want my couples to know that I donate all gratuities received to "Autism Speaks," on behalf of my beautiful daughter, Kaitlyn who was diagnosed Autistic at the age of 3 as well as to "The Compassionate Friends/USA," an amazing support group I joined after I lost my 18-year-old son, Nick, in 2014 to a tragic accident.  These two charities helped me though some of the darkest times of my life and I feel it's only fair to give back to them for all they've given me.  If interested in any of these charities, please feel free to ask me. 

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